Children do not recognise their environment immediately as they are born.
In science, there are contentions as to whether a child is born a ‘Tabula rasa’ (the epistemological idea that individuals are born without built-in mental content, which means that all knowledge comes from experience or perception) or as an innate being (which holds that the mind is born already possessing certain knowledge.
Whatever the view one holds of these two, children must be given a good socialisation experience in order to develop into better adults.
In this regard, we shall be talking about agents of socialisation that help in forming children into better adults.
Agents of socialisation and how parents can help their children with each
The family has been described as the primary contact that a child interacts with in his/her early years. Hence, a man and a woman must ensure that their family is established on God’s desire – found through His words.
Being born again, marrying to a believer, building the family on the foundation of God’s word and continuing to live as such – must be the pursuit of the two partners involved in raising godly children.
In fact, God has committed the spiritual growth of the child into the hands of the parents: in Proverbs 22:6, it is written thus, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”. KJV
Religion plays a vital role in the growth of a child by providing proper knowledge of God – to the child. The more reason parents must be born again and understand God’s word is so that they can refute wrong teachings anywhere (for the proper growth of their child).
The school is the utmost place, where children acquire educational knowledge to prepare them for their various career paths – in the future.
They also learn societal norms and values from the school: relate with their counterparts and superiors, and form a kind of value system.
The government plays a vital role in the orderly growth of children. In Nigeria, the government adopted the Child Rights Acts 2003 to provide proper environment for the development of Nigerian child.
The government makes regulations to protect children from drug abuse, child trafficking, child soldering, child labour, as well as, provide the rights to education among others.
It is noteworthy that both actions and inactions of government affect the child. Hence, parents must participate in shaping government’s decision making process, especially, during elections.
- Peer Group:
This is dangerous when not properly monitored. From tender ages, some children are already exposed to some things that are not meant for their age range, and they will teach those things to your children if you refused to do your part in mentoring, counseling, developing friendship with your children and praying for them.
It is true that the economic needs of a child are dependent on the parents. To this end, parents must provide for their children insatiable needs: children are not to lack the needful items in the house, for their studies or social gatherings.
Some other things are required
With all revealed, so far, parents must be able to agree on how they will raise their children: they must merge resources (time and money) to bring them up, so that they will contribute to societal peace and not trouble the society.
We will like to give you this parting gift:
When you are born again, you are given a measure of faith… You are given all of God’s promises. Your faith in those promises and in God Himself is the victory that overcomes the world.
What is it that tries to come against children, family members, and loved ones? It’s the world, the flesh, and the devil. Victory has been given to us in Christ, and the victory that we walk out is our faith in what God has done and in the promises that He has given to us.
It is our prayer that every person intending to marry receives God’s favour to carry him/her through, in Jesus name, amen.
 Wikipedia, Tabula rasa.
 Billy, Joe Daugherty, Promises to Believe for Your Children, Pg4.